My husband turned 25 this last May. I was excited to celebrate his birthday — actually, beyond excited. There’s something about celebrating other people’s birthdays that makes me over-the-moon-happy.
But the day after his birthday, I couldn’t help but think to myself, “Oh my gosh. I am going to turn 25 in less than three months.” I didn’t know how to feel about it. And you know what, it turns out a lot of people don’t know how to feel.
A few minutes ago, I googled “turning 25,” “25 years old” and “quarter life crisis.” The results were exactly what you’d imagine: columns and blog posts providing advice and lessons learned. Here’s a sampling:
- 10 Signs You’re Having Your Quarter-Life Crisis (BuzzFeed)
- 25 Things That Happen When You’re 25 (BuzzFeed)
- 25 Lessons I Learned by 25 (HuffPost Women)
- 25 Positive Things You Should Know About Turning 25 (Lifehack)
- 7 Cures for Your Quarter-Life Crisis (Relevant Magazine)
- The 25 Scariest Things About Turning 25 (Thought Catalog)
What came to mind after you read those titles? For me, it became even more obvious that 25 is one of those birthdays that makes you reconsider quite a bit, if not everything. Are you on the right track? Are there any relationships that you’ve wrongfully let fall by the wayside? Are you making enough of an impact on your community? Are you sure you want to continue building your career in that industry for the rest of your life?
Are you actually living the life you were meant to live?
These are all tough questions to answer, and to be honest, I don’t know if we’re meant to find those answers on our own. What I do know is that we are meant to keep pushing forward, even if we’re drowning in our uncertainty. We should be depending on our faith and our family and our friends to help us realize that we’re either doing just fine in life or that we need to work on making some adjustments.
After all, 25 years is certainly not a long time in the grand scheme of things — at only 25 years, there is plenty of time to fix what needs fixing and to explore different opportunities if we aren’t happy with where things stand.
Although it’s easy to focus on what we think should change in our lives, do you know what else we need to remember? That being thankful makes a big difference in realizing that we’re actually doing just fine in life. Try taking a brief moment each morning and/or each night to reflect on what you’re grateful for, specifically in regard to the person you’ve become and all the people who love you.
I have no doubt, it will absolutely shift your perspective.